Resources

Books, Organizations, People

Books

Communication

Dance of Connection

By Harriet Lerner. this classic book explores how to talk to someone when you're angry, hurt, scared, frustrated, insulted, betrayed or desperate.

The Lost Art of Listening

This book by Michael Nichols provides a thorough treatment of the importance and the power of "simply listening".   It is quite readable, and explains in detail why this basic skill can be the foundation of an intimate relationship.

Difficult Conversations

This book by Douglas Stone, et. al. examines the structure and the dynamics of difficult conversations, whether they occur in family life, in business, or in intimate relationships.

The Little Book of Listening Skills

By Mark Brady and Jennifer Leigh. Fifty-two essential practices for profoundly loving yourself and other people.

Affairs

After the Affair

This book by Janis Spring focuses on healing the pain and rebuilding trust when a partner has been unfaithful. Without judgement, it helps each side understand their own and the other's experience.

How Can I Forgive You?

This book by Janis Spring talks about the courage to forgive and the freedom not to.

Divorce

The Good Divorce

By Constance Ahrons, this book speaks to keeping your family together when your marriages comes apart. Helpful guides for co-parenting well.

Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce

M. Gary Neuman is the creator of the nationally renowned Sandcastles Divorce Therapy program. Used in family courts nationwide.

organizations

The Couples Institute

The Couples Institute is located at 445 Burgess Avenue in Menlo Park.  It was co-founded by Drs. Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson. The Institute has tools for couples as well as resourcs for therapists.

ACME

The Association for Couples in Marriage Enrichment. A group of lay couples supporting each other in the business of being married. Has both a strong national and local chapters. Jim and Bea Strickland (married 50 years) are the leaders of the Silicon Valley Chapter.